IVF hope for woman whose husband died hours after they wed [video]

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Monday, November 03, 2008
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BONE cancer sufferer Ashley Tyler died hours after fulfilling his dream of marrying his childhood sweetheart.

And new wife Stephanie is hoping Ashley's other wish – that the couple have a baby - comes true as she prepares to start IVF treatment.

The young couple, of Robert Heath Street in Smallthorne, were planning to marry in March but had to bring their wedding forward when the cancer spread to Ashley's brain and he was given hours to live.

Nurses at the University Hospital of North Staffordshire rallied round to arrange flowers and a cake, a registrar was put on standby and Stephanie rushed out to buy their rings before the bedside wedding last Monday.

Ashley, aged 20, managed to say his vows and even crack a joke before passing away peacefully in the early hours of Tuesday.

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Stephanie, aged 22, said: "I just wanted to marry him and didn't care where it was.

"It was a race against time to get everything ready but in the end everyone rallied round and it went really smoothly.

"I wore my work suit because Ashley always liked me in that.

"About 40 people packed the intensive care room and Ashley said vows perfectly, he even made everyone laugh by looking round when the registrar asked if anyone had any objections as if to say 'you dare'.

"I will always remember my wedding day and it was made more special because of how everyone went to such lengths to help and make it a lovely event."

Ashley, a construction student at Burslem College, was diagnosed with Ewing Sarcoma, a rare and aggressive cancer, in his leg and lungs three years ago, after suffering leg pains and problems breathing.

After 12 months of intensive chemotherapy and an operation to replace his femur with a metal rod, he went into remission and hoped he had won the battle.

His family were given the devastating news the cancer had returned last December and a further six months of treatment kept the tumours at bay.

But in September more tumours were discovered. Then, last month, doctors broke the news they had spread to Ashley's brain and he was admitted to hospital for the final time on October 24.

His family are now planning a funeral with a horse-drawn carriage and coffin decked out in Manchester United's colours next week.

And Stephanie is keeping positive by looking forward to having the baby she and Ashley dreamt of.

Stephanie said: "We decided to start the IVF process when he was in remission earlier this year but it got put on hold when Ashley got ill again.

"I just want to have something of Ashley. I can imagine him looking down and being really proud."

Ashley's mum Rachel Roberts, of Cheadle, said: "It was a real shock when the doctors said he wasn't going to survive this time, but I think he hung on to get married, it kept him going.

"It was a real emotional rollercoaster, everyone was crying, even the nurses, but the wedding means we can now remember the day with happiness as well as sadness.

"It was so cruel that he was taken, but I'm relieved he died peacefully and with dignity, and at the end he was happy."

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    by Bethany, Lichfield

    Wednesday, April 01 2009, 11:19PM

    “Ashley, you really were the best cousin any one could ever wish for! You are such an inspiration to me and you have made me see my life in a whole new perspective. The best memory I have of you was at Gary's wedding, and I was 4 and I wouldn't stop jumping on you and putting my arms round your neck and you constantly pushing me off you! I am going to miss you so much. Words can't explain how much I love you Ash, you really are a hero. Rest in peace forever. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx”

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    by Lisa M, Norton Green

    Monday, November 17 2008, 11:43AM

    “R.I.P Ash, he was a great lad, he never had a bad word about anybody and a great sense of humour, i was shocked when i saw him in the norton arms, good luck to his wife steph hope everything goes well for you, xxxxx”

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    by Kieron, stoke

    Sunday, November 16 2008, 2:56AM

    “The last few years have been a real pleasure mate, and we met unda the funniest of circumstances, i'll always have the memories of all the laughs we've had in and out of hospital. even when i had to make up that i was going on holiday so that the nurse let me come in to see you. you have always been an inspiration and i look at life in a whole new way. Miss you mate!”

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    by kaylee roberts, hull

    Monday, November 10 2008, 4:18PM

    “R.I.P ash, i cant believe i wont see you again, your a really nice lad and you didnt deserve to go so young. I know you will be looking down on all your friends and loved ones and i cant wait for there to be a mini you running around. You was so brave and always kept your chin up, i will always remember our childhood together and our nights round town darl. Steph hope your keeping strong and hope the IVF goes well darl, my sympathy is with you and ashleys family. Im so glad you both got married because i know how much ash loved you and he always had nice things to say about your relationship together, love you ash xxkayxx”

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    by Charlene, Stoke-on-Trent

    Friday, November 07 2008, 5:37PM

    “I used to go school with ash but havn't really seen him since. I couldn't beleive it when I first saw him and he told me he had cancer, u don't think it could happend to sum1 so young. Over the past couple of years I have bumped into ash a couple of times and he always had a smile on his face and seemed so positive; a truly brave guy. My thoughts go out to all of his family; and I hope his wife's dreams of havng his baby come true. R.I.P ash x”

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