"MY TODDLER is well into the terrible twos with daily tantrums and I can't take him out because of the fuss he causes." Sheila, mother-of-one, from Hartshill.

Tantrums are noisy, often embarrassing, and the majority of toddlers have them frequently. They're usually an expression of strong emotions, when your child doesn't know how to translate their feelings in words. You'll notice tantrums are often triggered by frustration, having to share, and being told "no". They're more likely when he is over-stimulated, hungry or tired. Try these tips to avoid tantrums. Use distraction – if you see a tantrum building up redirect your child's attention and then praise him for good behaviour. Avoid activities that usually lead to tantrums if hungry or tired. Whatever you do, tantrums will happen, If so, don't give in to pestering or offer a treat to keep him quiet, as this teaches that tantrums work and he'll be more likely to try them again. Strong emotions can be scary for your child, so stay close and keep calm, as this reaction teaches him that strong emotions need not be overwhelming. Do guide your child out of the situation to a quiet spot and wait for him to calm down. Avoid threatening, telling off or reasoning with your toddler until the tantrum subsides. Even though you may hate tantrums, each one gives you a chance to teach your toddler how to handle frustration in the future.

"MY SON has just got his first girlfriend. He's only 13 and I'm not sure how important this is to him or how I should handle it." Neil, father-of-four, from Fenton.

Do take your son's relationship seriously. Encourage him to bring his girlfriend home and accept his choice, even if you're not convinced this is the right person for him. Show an interest by asking about his relationship without turning it into an interrogation, as he may feel pressured and stop offering you information. You'll need to decide how much privacy you give him. If he and his friend want to spend time in his room then you may feel more comfortable if the door is open and there is an agreement that you'll be nearby. This may be a good time to have a private chat about what you expect of him in terms of sexual behaviour. While this could be an embarrassing conversation, it is worth having to ensure he's aware of your values, standards and the use of contraception. Even as he starts to date, be ready for your role as comforter when he breaks up. His heartache will be acute, as these early experiences can be very painful and it may be hard on you too, seeing him distressed.